Its not what i hear often, in my dating career I have always learnt a cardinal rule "whenever you go on a date, always eat what you can afford". I am a modern day spinster, i support the notion that if a man asks a lady out on a first date he MUST pay for it. Then where does lets split it in half come in?.
I met a flippant-tight-fisted guy a while ago and we got on OK. He purchased tickets for the best seats at the cirque du soleil to see Allegria on a spur of the moment. I was thrilled, while i was basking in the euphoric moment he said "I am not a guy who believes he should buy a woman a meal just to get into her knickers". I mean where did that come from? He offered to take me out. Anyway, that made me furious. I still agreed to our first date. After the show I took him to Maroush and forked out cash for our entire meal, at least he knows one of us wasn't a cheapskate. then i make the mistake of inviting him over to to another restaurant with my pals. Mr Voracious had 4 cocktails at £9.50 each and when the bill came i was saddled with a £40 portion of the bill when i only had a mediocre meal and 2 glasses of cheap rioja. Suffice to say, that was the conclusion of our ill-fated encounter.
Why on earth will you go out for a meal with a vegetarian and expect to go dutch, when your food costs more than theirs?
Recently, i met up with someone i dated briefly (now he doesn't deserve the title of an ex), we went to a cheap and cheerful Thai restaurant just before our movie. After the meal he said "should we go dutch?". The bill was frigging £30, what was there to split? I was puzzled, i looked around, In my lineage there are no dutchs. I thought it was a joke. I simply replied, well i got the movie tickets anyway so pay for the meal.
Eating out, or lunch/dinner dates needn't be orchestrated, if you have an understanding the bill gets settled. There is no need for any awkwardness or slow-reaching-for-the-wallet. Maybe my preconceived notions are getting the worse or best of me, but i don't believe in going dutch anyway. I dont mind paying for what i eat, especially when your date has got a voracious appetite and you settle for a starter, the git then wants you to split it half. Thats how most men earn a reputation for being tight-fisted.