.....is with Food, Sex.....or quite frankly...maybe a rusty fork :-)....
This morning while playing squash with my coach we got into a light banter. Going back and forth as I was shedding the pounds... We compared pounding yam to playing squash and that's where the roforofo ensued. He thinks a woman should pound yam for her man if she really loves him. I think a woman has no business pounding yam as it's too tedious. It's a man's job! You eat the pounded yam, so friggin' grab the mortar and bloody pestle and get to work. Dammit.
Coach: "You know the way to a man's heart is through his stomach and with sex?".....( I couldn't figure out whether he was asking me a question or telling me a fact! ....)
Me:(I paused) "I will have to disagree with you coach on that one".
Coach: A woman should be able to cook weeeeeelllll and give him satisfaction in bed.
Me: What if he has fantastic sex with a prostitute(and she is his regular) will he decide to spend the rest of his life with her then?
Coach: *he shrugs* well, you have a point there. (insert silly giggle here).
Me: If the way to a man's heart is through a nice meal and a great shag then I would probably been in my 7th year of marriage or maybe in my 4th marriage or maybe have 5 husbands at the same time.....whichever one has more significance. ( my mind drifted back to my Ann Summer days and the summer of 2006)
Me: *not wanting him to slow my game down* Well I am being honest. I mean if it was the case, the chefs and porn stars wont get divorced.... Or won't be lonely. I took the liberty of telling him of a couple of people i knew who where in solid marriages yet they could literarily BURN water!
Me: what happens when sexual passion fizzles out? And you are tired of eating pounded yam,..... I think sex and a great meal is secondary to what men want. I believe a real man will take character over a good cook or mind blowing sex unless of course he is a professional idiot.
Me: *oh dear, have I touched a nerve?*
Coach: I think sex should be the glue that binds them together...it should be an added plus.
Me: You are right, sex is vital. Cooking and sex can be taught. But character is ingrained. It's developed over time. Besides it's self sustaining...
I think we ended it there....(unresolved)..... I kinda felt the reverse should have been the case. I mean. I was trying to convince a grown ass man that character triumphed over Sex/food. Unbelievable! Anyway, it was good to get a man's perspective on that. The good news is I lost 6kg over the last 6 weeks. I am enjoying squash tremendously and I am taking swimming lessons too. By hook or by crook, I must sabi swim
That's all folks!