This is a typical scenario
Girl 1: Hey girl, I have some Brazilian weaves for sale. Would you like one?
Me: Ah, No....I can't afford one at the moment.
Girl 1: Haba, how will you say you can't afford it? Just say you no wan buy from me or you get them plenty.
(It takes little to rile me up and this certainly did. Then I had to break it down to her as if she was a 2 year old.)
Me: First of all if you know anything about me you'd know I don't own a Brazilian weave.
Girl 1: A whole you? It's not possible.
Me: Well, its possible because of what I place as priorities. I don't see buying an expensive weave, bag or shoe as an investment as some people do.
Girl 1: Ok, just buy one from me na.
Me: Just because I have 25,000 Naira (£100) or 100,000 (£400) in my account doesn't mean I can afford a bottle of champagne or some Brazilian weave. It just means I have priorities and expensive weaves are not one of them.
Girl 1: But you travel, don't you pay for your trips?
Me: Yes, my trips are priority so also is my entertainment for the month. A Brazilian weave and Louis Vuitton are not one of them. I don't own any. Not because I don't like them, I just can't afford it right now.
Girl 1: ??? (Still unable to grasp the concept of 'affordability' or 'priority') Ok o, no problem then. Later!
I don't think I have any friend who can afford a bottle of Champagne without feeling the pinch, including myself. I sell one for about $80. I agree some can afford Brazilian weaves as it's part of their budget and they can logically argue that it has a lifetime guarantee.... It's not the amount you have as your bank balance. Duh! It's what you you hold as priority. Same way some of my friends don't understand that I can't buy a pricey shoe or bag or jewelry or even register at the golf club (a friend almost almost mauled me to death over the golf one yet she doesn't understand why I can still travel and claim I can't afford things) I agree, I am a cheapskate. Truth is, something has to give. I make a few trips a year, visit new countries and explore. It gives me joy and I look forward to these trips with glee. I couldn't possibly afford all those trips and still wear Brazilian weaves and expensive gold. I am not rich. Until, I can buy the littlest of things and not feel the pinch, then I can say I can truly afford things. Some people can afford things by the status of their bank balance. I am different, I can't.
The experience I have garnered from my travels can't be impacted upon by just wearing Brazilian weaves and drinking champagne. It comes from exposure. Chai.