Wedding in absentia.....Yay or Nay?
I called my banker the other day to get some information about my account and she told me she was on her honeymoon and away from work. I was taken aback because the last I knew she wasn't seeing anyone and suddenly she was married. I congratulated her and asked about her husband and she said he was in America.... While I was trying to figure out how there was a honeymoon without a 'honey' she dropped the bomb that the wedding was in absentia. *long pause*....That sounds plausible...a marriage without a groom and a honeymoon without a honey. I mean, seriously it doesn't. Whats the rush anyway? Even a shot-gun wedding shouldn't be done in absentia. Something doesn't feel right. I could never feel as if I am properly married. Having a parent or a sibling absent from a wedding is bad enough but my better half is waaaaaaaaay out of the equation.
Long distance relationships are bad enough, but a marriage by proxy is much more than I can handle. More often than not a marriage in absentia occurs as a result of visa issues. I find its all too rampant in Edo state where I come from, a few months ago my mum was gearing up indecisively for a distant relatives wedding in Lagos.....a few days to the wedding she casually dropped a hint that the wedding was in absentia as both the bride and groom won't be present for the wedding as they both had visa issues in Germany. The look on my face told her what I had in mind. She wasn't going for any wedding where enlarged framed photographs were used to represent couples on their wedding day. In some cases where one of the couples was present (usually the groom is away) they use a representative, especially someone close to the groom, like a cousin or someone who knows a lot about the groom. In the 21st century where technology is readily available, there could be a conference call or a webcam where groom sees what's going on throughout the event.
Dare I say I am a helpless romantic and for me I can understand an introduction ceremony but a traditional or white wedding is totally out of the question. For its its more physical that anything else, I want to hold him, feel him and touch him on my wedding day. If distance is a barrier then I am afraid our love is just gonna stand the test of time, test of distance and test of time-zones. I don't think my heart can't take it. Sorry, it's a big NAY from me!
Joking apart, I can understand how a wedding in absentia operates but what goes on during a honeymoon in absentia? Don't tell me it's phone sex and skype sex all the way? Bladdy hell?!
So tell me, what are your opinions about a Wedding in absentia?