Kai, I have been missing in action here. My apologies. I have been busy and coupled with writer's block I haven't been able to come up with any exciting post until yesterday when my Sister-in-law and I had the most unusual conversation.
We (some members of my family and I) have been invited to a three day wedding next month. The couple are not Nigerian and the father of the bride asked us to come dressed in our native attire to showcase our rich cultural heritage. Whether we have that in Edo North, I am not sure. Anyway, my graceful-fashionista-beautician sister-in-law is in charge of the aso-ebi. I mean there are only 5 women coming from our family but we have decided to pick a uniform. So yesterday I was summoned to get a sneak peek of the fabric we will be wearing. I may not be a fashionista but i know an expensive fabric when I see one. After evading the repeated question of How much? How much? She finally said well for a wedding like this we cannot go there looking like peasants. its N51,000 for the whole thing. N51,000, $319, £195.... that's for the fabric alone. We haven't even talked about the tailor...shoe and bag. Then I started sweating profusely.
Everyone knows me, I am not an aso-ebi person. I never was or will even be. I don't even invest in Ankara. I know 1000% that I would be wearing this outfit only once. I know it, I can feel it. "I don't think I would even invest this much in my own wedding" I retorted.... "What sort of wedding do you want?" she asked. "Well.....something small...just me and him walking the beach in Zanzibar or something.....I don't want a fuss" smiling sheepishly. "TA.....Beach ke? That's how marine spirit enters people. Are you an ogbanje?....In fact just show up and leave the rest to us" * I guess my wedding plan is sorted then*... "I don't understand why you can spend so much money on food and travel and not to beautify yourself?" she quizzed.... "I am wearing it only once and IT IS NOT MY WEDDING" I replied defiantly.
A lot of people would argue that the aso-ebi is a part of our culture but for me I disagree. I think its just a way to rip people off. I am not a big fan of it period. Instead of spending that much on an outfit especially when you are not the one getting married why not invest in a nice gift for the couple?
Anyway, my sister-in-law agreed to pay half the Aso-ebi amount and is giving it to a VERY good tailor too. I am also believing she will provide the jewellery I will wear.....