Wednesday, 23 May 2012

Do yourself a favour! Think....

.....You would thank me later.

I went to my brother's office to see him and I was waiting and chatting with the Secretary. I have known this man almost all my life and i know he has worked for this company for ages. So i asked him out of curiosity "Uncle, how long have you been working with this company"....With the widest Cheshire cat grin and so much pride he responded "I think about 25 years now".

He has been working in the same company as a SECRETARY for 25 years. My interpretation is...What a wasted destiny. How else can you explain our family senior driver who has been working for us for about 30 years?. Senior Driver or Assistant driver, you are still a driver and it denotes a lack of progress.

I was chatting with a young girl a couple of days ago. She is light skinned, chirpy, full of life and full of promise. We got talking business and she goes "I am an entrepreneur.....a fashion designer"....Have you ever wondered how many fashion designers we have in Nigeria? Everyone who can sketch a dowdy looking dress and hire 2 or 3 tailors in their garage is now a fashion designer. If you fall into that category then you are a 'tailor'. Its an easy escape route. Everyone is either a fashion designer, an events planner or doing 'supplies' (for the guys). People are afraid to think anymore. About a decade ago, it was Senegal and Dubai it is fashion design. People don't know what they were placed on earth for. I mean how can you explain 4 close friends being fashion designers.

When was the last time you birthed an idea? Think...

I am glad I finally found my calling in life. 2 years ago I was still struggling to find my feet. To find my bearing. I was working in a bank then set up business at the insistence of my elder brother. Then I sat in my really cosy office one day and thought...after this WHAT, WHERE NEXT??  So do I want to go down life as a drink seller? Most certainly not!!! I slowly saw my life ebbing away rapidly in front of me. It wasn't what I wanted. I have big dreams. Huge visions. I made the mistake of sharing a snippet of my vision with someone I really looked up to and his response was "You too like big thing". Which made me even more determined that I would achieve all the goals I have set for myself and I cannot go through life, this earth without making a mark. I cannot be another 'tailor' or 'supplier'. I don't see why you should too. Do not be afraid to dream big dreams. Stay away from people who says it cannot be done, no matter how ridiculous your idea is.

I remember a good friend of mine who I worked with at the bank was dreaming of setting up a TV channel. Not station oh, TV channel! We all thought she was ridiculous. Totally insane. Long story short, her vision changed a bit but she recently launched her online platform in the UK recently, getting a lot of press and support from the diplomatic community. I couldn't be more proud.

You too can dream big dreams. Please do not limit yourself.  .


Pic: Google Images


LadyNgo said...

IDK, I think so long as the person is happy with what they are doing, then they should continue. Honestly everyone can't be a doctor. Somebody has to be the factory worker, sanitation worker, plumber etc. And for some people, that might be a big dream. Who are we to say it's not?

Gidan Nodza said...

Abeg tell them o, anyways thanks for the wake up call. I have barely scratched the surface

Sisi Yemmie ™ said...

This is exactly how I've been feeling lately, the need to do more!

Mamuje said...

LadyNgo- I totally feel you but my message is more about encouragement as opposed to how you interpreted it. I believe anyone has the right to become what theyr desire...including drivers. I know some people who have used their cars as cabs but they are successful today. Very successful, so its all about growth. It is about advancement. the next level. If you want to be a plumber, be a plumber but make your mark. Another succesful guy I met whose life was cut short. He introduced mobile toilets. Some might call it shit-packing but the guy won a social entrepreneurship fellowship for his idea. He made an impact.

Gidan Nodza- I am so proud of you and your work. You are doing what no one is doing (not that I know of) in our society). Yes, you have barely scratched the surface dear. I am VERY inspired too.

Sisi Yemmie- if you start feeling dissatisfied then its the beginning of great things. Some people go through life always happy to be in a safe-zone. You will be fine.

As for me I am not discontent with what I have, I am just discontent with where I am. :)

Ginger said...

To dress up 150 million Nigerians i think we need as many fashion designers as we can

I think we should dare to dream that when opportunity meets readiness = success

itsjustmedaringtodream said...

Thanks for the post. I believe I still struggle to "live my dream". Finances always brings me back to reality (with a little fear sprinkled in). But I was a secretary for 20 years. So sad because I didnt believe in myself that I could do more. Now well into my 40s, I feel I have lost so much time. I heard a saying that I thought to share: "Figure out to build your dreams, or someone will hire you to build theirs for them". I much rather want to build my own dream than someone elses...20+ years is long enough!

Fluffycutething said...

@ Ginger- like seriously LMAO

Anyway be like say na God wan use you knock small sense into me today oh... this is certainly food for thought!!!

Mamuje said...

Ginger- I laugh no be small. You are right in that context.

ItsMeDaringTODream- Its not too late, as long as you realise and make the effort. I also realised I was helping someone build their dream and it wasnt mine.

FlufflyCuteThing- I am glad I can be a blessing, I have felt the need to blog about it, not that my own life is perfect but at least I have realised how small I have been thinking in the past. I am on the path of change.

CherryWine said...

You forgot to include stylist and musician/producer. This post gave me the giggles. I'm a different kettle of fish tho, so many ideas and a struggle to realize them. I'm learning to focus my ideas now and begin actualizing them. Great post ma'am.

@ilola said...

I cannot stand stagnancy, my spirit just doesn't flow with it. If I am not moving forward at something, I get restless

Ella dice beautiful, suena como libertad said...

I like the last sentence! And i tihnk this phrase: When I was younger, so much younger than today,
I never needed anybody's help in any way.
But now these days are gone, I'm not so self assured,
Now I find I've changed my mind and opened up the doors. (The beatles.)

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