Wednesday, 3 October 2012

Is social climbing the new fad?

...should I say social climbing or what's the generic word for living above one's means is the new fad?

"I am so stressed out, I have been on my annual leave for about 2 weeks and I am yet to go anywhere? My colleagues have been calling, asking if I haven't gone for summer" Tope cried.

"It's a no-brainer, if you cannot afford it why do you have to go? What do you have to prove?' I replied

"But I would like to shop for new things somewhere, do you know anywhere? I can't go back to work with my old clothes. If I cant travel, at least I can get some new suits" She continued.

"I still don't think you owe it to anyone. You are putting undue pressure on yourself by trying to keep up" Then I went into a long long long sermon and she reasoned with me eventually...

Since the birth of Ovation magazine brought about cloud of pretentiousness that has spread over the average Nigerian. A lot of people who regularly go out to be seen are enjoying the 'limelight' and have become 'Socialites' overnight. Overflowing Brazilian locks, a lot of faux-Birkins, Chanel, Louboutins, hoity-toity-ness, makeshift American accents...The works...a lot of these people have to keep up with societal expectations. They are by force friends to the stars and crème de la crème of the society. They have become celebrities overnight. Then they start to borrow, scrape from the little they have because they want to keep up with an image 'City people' paints of them. I am not a fan of these mags, but I see a particular lady ALL the time in 'This Day Style' being paraded as a successful Abuja socialite and entrepreneur. So imagine my shock when I saw her shoulder to shoulder on a BA economy flight. How?!!!

When I worked in the bank, I remember my colleagues asking me why I didn't get a car loan. They kept teasing me about being stingy. I also remember an entry level staff who took a loan to buy a ticket to the UK for the first time as well as a car. When we were laid off and he got his pay off, there was nothing left as the bank took their loan repayment in one big swoop. I left the bank with no loans hovering over my head.

I sit with my friends and I feel blessed because of the people I have around me. No pretentiousness. We wear Asos. New Look and even Primark. Proudly. We hang out and drink BEER. Yes, Beer. Oh and we live a good quality of life. Much better than some faux-Chanel carrying socialites or some Porsche-Panamara-driving dude who lives in a BQ. I don't see why people feel the need to impress. At my brother's bar, the people we are more cautious of, are the Moet Rose popping invertebrates people. After popping an obscene amount they come behind the bar and start begging for discounts (or beg to pay the next day) and almost never pay up. The next week. Gbam! Abuja big boys on City People front page! It's just a very very poor way to live. It's a tall order. You should not have champagne tastes on a beer budget. It's either you can afford it or cannot.

There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong in mingling/networking with the people that matter in the society. It's a brilliant idea. It should also be done with wisdom.


Pic from google images: Cartoon Stock


Myne Whitman said...

Hmmm...nice article, but will they hear?

Toinlicious said...

My sister, i tire o. Living a champagne life on a palm wine salary. I don't even know how it makes sense to kill yourself while trying to impress people who don't know you or even care about you that much.

Amy said...

People everywhere want to keep up with the Joneses. Really a shame because in the end the Joneses will continue to live a lifestyle they can afford while those who were trying to keep up will eventually fall utterly short!

Ginger said...

Keeping up with the Joneses/kardashians/Osinowos etc etc
Poverty mentality i call it. My parents taught me the value of being content.Best lesson of my life!

I was called stingy too for not taking a car loan as a banker; yet the ones that took were borrowing from me lol. abeg!

Luciano said...

as in ennn.........
just be you, it make life a lot easier

Mamuje said...

Myne- Some learn eventually. Others have it in their blood to impress. If i feel the innate need to impress people at an event. That's it, I wont go.

I wonder when shopping at Ross or Primark became substandard? Na wa

Nutty J. said...

Tell them ooooo

Wisdom is profitable to direct

AnyaPosh said...

My girl you make sense. Naija life, all na sparkle and shine shine. When it's all said and done, the same people go reach house dey chop indomie breakfast, lunch and dinner for 2 weeks!

mstizzle said...

Preach!! I'll blame it (mostly) on the media. We see and we want. After watching episodes of the Kardashians I have to remind myself of where I am again cos I just picture myself looking hot with original letter "H" in front of my belt, flowing locks and that beeeautiful Prada bag. Sigh... Blame it on the media jo. You may enjoy this. One of my fiiirst posts. I think it's kind of related. Please leave a comment : )

aloted said...

great points you have raised...

i really don't get why people see the need to impress others especially when they don't have. i really really dont get it.

what happened to being content??

Gidan Nodza said...

...enough said!!!

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